Thursday, May 29, 2014

Relationship Magic: Take the Guesswork Out of Pleasing Your Partner

For many different reasons, you know people do not always say exactly what they mean or what they want, but using relationship magic can help you have true conversations and take the guesswork out of what your partner really wants. Using your psychic skills, you can communicate with others on a spirit to spirit basis or "read" what the other person really wants in a relationship. There are many different magical techniques that can facilitate a spirit to spirit communication such as using a water bowl or firebowl. You can also develop your psychic abilities to the point that you will be able to "read" others and sense what your partner truly wants.

Learning to Read People Psychically
Here is an exercise that will help you start developing your psychic abilities in learning to "read" other people. Don't get caught up on finding out if your descriptions are right or wrong. At this point there is no right or wrong. Right now you are just practicing tuning in with your psychic powers and psychic abilities instead of your usual five senses or mind chatter. The only goal right now is to practice. The more you practice and get used to using your Spirit abilities the more your observations will improve. So, relax and get ready to start practicing this exercise:

1. Get a pen, paper and a timer or watch.

2. Go to a public place that has lots of people. Restaurants, airports, malls, or a public park are all good places. If you cannot get out then turn the sound off on your TV and use the people you see on it.

3. Pick a comfortable place to sit and where you will not feel self-conscious or obvious. If you feel like you will "stick out" or think others will think you odd for looking at them, this can interfere with the exercise.

4. Pick a person that you are going to observe for 30 seconds.

5. Set your timer for 30 seconds or note the time on your watch and note the time you will stop 30 seconds later.

6. Start writing anything and everything that you can about the person you are observing. Some things you write will be things that can be observed by your 5 senses such as hair color, heavy or thin, type of clothing, or what activities they are doing. The key here is not to think about what you are writing, just write. Do not pause in your writing and write as much as you can, as fast as you can in your 30 second period. This will help you override "mind" and the physical 5 senses observations so that some of your observations will include things you cannot have observed with your 5 senses like that the person has a sensitive nature or has four brothers and works indoors.

7. After your 30 seconds is over, pick another person to observe, set your timer and repeat the process of writing about this person for 30 seconds.

8. Repeat this process until you have observed 10 different people for 30 seconds each over a 5 minute period.

Developing your psychic abilities is a great place to start with relationship magic. Doing exercises such as this one and others you will find in our Psychic Development ebook will allow you to access information that can guide you in a relationship or give you information to help you decide if this is maybe not a relationship you want to pursue. Remember to follow the Rules of the Road and that you have the right to gather information that you can't access with your five senses as long as you stay in accordance with these rules. Unless you are one of those people who have been blessed with a natural psychic gift, you will need to practice, practice, practice exercises such as this one before you start getting reliable results using your psychic abilities. Don't worry though, you have them... everyone does. You just need to get yours out, dust them off and put them to work for you.

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Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Change Yourself to Change Your World

If you want to make big changes your world, start by magically changing yourself. How does this work? There are several magical principles that you can employ when you want to create transformation in your life. Here are some of those principles and magical techniques based on them that will help you.

Anchor Yourself
There is a magical principle that says, "When two objects are attracted, the least-anchored object comes undone first." People who are anchored are less likely to encounter "accidents" or events outside their control. In other words if you are one of the objects and you are securely anchored in present time then it is the world around you or life events that will "come undone" before you will. So instead of life events pulling on you and causing you to react to them, you will control what life events are pulled into your reality.

Acts of Power – Doing an act of power several times of day can increase the anchoring in your life. To be an act of power, the act does not have to be anything complicated. It can be something very simple and may seem very ordinary. Remember that any act of power is a magical act, a magic ritual. Here's an exercise that will get you started on performing acts of power.
  • Pick a very simple act that you can perform simply and easily. For example, make a mark on a paper or pick up a pen.
     
  • Make a conscious decision as to when you will start your chosen act, how long it will last and when you will finish the act. For example, if you chose make a mark on a paper, you can say it will start now, will take 2 seconds and will end when the mark is made.
     
  • Now do it. You have decided on an act, defined its parameters, so do it.

It doesn't matter what the act is because any act done with intention is an act of magic and can be an act of power. Doing acts of power on a regular basis allows you to start doing these acts naturally without having to think about the steps. With practice your acts of power can become longer and larger acts, but starting with short simple ones gets you going.

Increase Your Earth Element – Another way to strengthen your anchor is to add the element Earth to your energetic makeup. You can learn more about the element Earth and its characteristics in our Magical Element Earth homestudy course.

Baby Steps
There's a law in the Universe that says, "A small change in the present will create a larger change in the future." It's part of the law of Divination. When you really want to transform your life in a big way, start small, or even better start tiny. Make a tiny change that only you will notice and see what happens. Make another tiny change and see what happens. Keep making tiny changes toward your goal. Tiny changes have a large impact because they change your habitual thought pattern enough to open you to new ideas and inspirations and since they are small you avoid the resistance factor. Any tiny change in habit will automatically shift where you stand, and therefore what you think and feel.

Make a Small Change – All you need to do to make a small change is to pick a goal and make just one very small change that would lead to it. For example, you set a goal to save more money to build up a savings account. Now let's say you go out to eat lunch every day at work. Don't start by brown bagging it everyday, but rather pick one day a week that you will take a lunch. Do this for a couple of weeks, then maybe add another brown bag day to it or pick something else to cut out one day week, like not buying a morning coffee.

Future Memories
Future memories are another magical technique that can help change your life. Future memories are about what we will do, will say or will experience in the future. They pave the way for us from the present to our desired future. When you create future memories, add specifics like emotions, thoughts, and actions to make them seem real. The more energy put into the creation of a future memory the more likely they are to manifest. Future memories are like friendly reminders to your future self of strategies to reach your goal and of how you can avoid pitfalls. The more time and energy you put into creating your future memories, the more real they will be and the faster they will manifest into reality.

The Long Moment
The long moment, also called the Cortothalamic Pause, is a technique that slows one's perception of certain events in order to see what is really happening in present time. It can be used to slow life down so you are able to form an appropriate response instead of giving a mechanical response or more likely a mechanical reaction to a situation. For most people there is a 3 step process they go through that leads to responding to events and situations with a mechanical reaction. These are:

1. We receive an incoming perception: ie. – A person speaks loudly to us
2. The perception is immediately routed by our flow of associations to a certain place in our memory: ie. – In this or a past life, we have memories of loud voices and anger.
3. The perception is assigned a meaning: ie. – The person is angry with us.

These steps happen very quickly, less than a second usually and lead to a reaction of however each of us responds to an angry person. We don't take the time usually to consider that there may be other feelings involved and that we are assigning our own interpretation to another's actions. This can lead to overreactions at the moment and cause more problems. If you had a Cortothalamic Pause, you would not react out of your own memory, but rather be able to slow the event down, be totally present in the "now", and form a more appropriate or true response. Start out twice a day practicing this skill. When someone asks you a question or asks you to do something, stop everything inside yourself for 2 seconds. Stop all thought and consideration. Get quiet. Then respond to the person. For a while you won't actually be able to stop your internal thoughts, but you will be able to see all the mechanical reactions and thoughts that immediately spring up. You may be surprised at the massive and often chaotic activity that happens inside yourself. It will give you true insight into the way you interact with life.

You now have several daily rituals to explore to help you with changing yourself and having an impact on the world around you and what you want to attract to it. For more daily rituals and to learn how to create daily rituals for yourself, check out our Daily Rituals for Attracting What You Want in Life ebook.

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Thursday, May 22, 2014

Sticky Relationship Issues? Create Sacred Space to Smooth Them Over

Making the time to create sacred space for ourselves can indeed help smooth over sticky relationship issues. We all have times when our busy lives stress us out and we not only don't make quality time for friends and family, but we also often take out our frustrations and stress on those closest to us. This is a good time to turn to magic. By using a few magic words and magical techniques to create sacred space, we can strengthen our relationships. Using daily rituals such as the ones in our Daily Rituals for Attracting What You Want in Life ebook helps not only with our earthly relationships, but also those with higher powers and beings.

What is Sacred Space?
The word "sacred" originated from the very sacren which means "to consecrate". Consecrate often is associated with religious meanings, but aside from that it also means "To dedicate solemnly to a service or goal." Using this definition, you can get an immediate start on smoothing out relationship issues by re-dedicating yourself to those relationships. Making an aim or a goal for yourself is the first step. This aim could be something that you will do to relieve your own stress, making you more pleasant to be around and more available to others or it could be a goal for something you will consistently physically do for others in your life. If you are not sure about what aim or goal to pick, using magical tools such as Medicine Cards, Runes, Sacred Path cards or Angel Cards can help. You may want to pick one long term goal to work towards or pick a different goal for each day.

How To Create Sacred Space
Creating sacred space is a very simple way to get back peace, serenity and clarity. There are hundreds of ways to create sacred space, depending on which tradition you study or practice. One of the keys though is consistency. Doing a simple daily ritual consistently will bring you much more success in creating sacred space than doing a list of things that you will probably put aside when stressed and short of time. You can pick a ritual as simple as sitting in total silence just breathing for 3 minutes each morning. As long as you do it consistently each and every day, you will build force and feel the results throughout the day. Here are a few other ways you can start creating sacred space in your life.

1. Create a Sacred Space to Create Sacred Space – You need to have a physical space that is free of clutter that you can go to. Pick an area in your home that can be just for you and clean it up physically and energetically. You can clear out negative energies by doing a 4 element cleansing or smudging (get instructions by sending a blank email to cleansmudge@shamanschool.com). You may want to set up an altar in this space for sacred objects such as a feather or interesting rock you found on a walk, candles, or a talisman or symbol that resonates with you. Keep your sacred space area clear of dust and make it a special place just for you.

2. From Start to Finish – Pick a simple daily ritual that you can perform at the very beginning of your day to set the tone for the day with peace, calmness, awareness and to invite magic into your life. Do the same ritual last thing of the day to help you end your day in the same way by inviting magic into your dream world and helping you get good quality sleep.

3. Sacred Movement – Some people just can't sit still, even for 3 minutes. Trying to do a sitting or meditation just seems to stress them out more. For those people, walking can be a good way to create the sacred. Taking a walk and praying or talking with higher powers can create sacred space all around you. Moving your body also moves your mind. By the law of "as above, so below," when you move body, spirit and mind will also move. Taking a walk can move your mind out of whatever space it is in and reconnect you with your aim. There are also moving mediations done in conjunction with a litany that can help create sacred space with movement and magic words.

4. Sun Candle – Lighting and charging a Sun Candle is a great way to create sacred space in your special area or anywhere. I know people that keep one on the desk at work to keep their work area calm and energetically clean and to help them focus or concentrate. All you need is a bright yellow candle that doesn't have any orange overtones and preferably is unscented and wooden or paper matches. Then charge or program the candle in this way:
  • Stand or sit in the South facing North with the Sun Candle in front of you
  • Light the candle using wooden or paper matches (do NOT use a lighter)
  • Wait until the candle flame is steady and tall
  • Hold your hands up to and around the flame, focusing your attention on the candle and flame.
  • Say the charge verse below in a voice of command (a strong, powerful voice):
Child of Wonder,
Child of Flame,
Nourish My Spirit,
And Protect My Aim!
Leave the candle burning for at least 30 minutes (be sure the candle is on a protected surface such as a plate and is not a fire hazard). At the end of 30 minutes or when you feel ready, blow out the flame (don't snuff it).

5. Use Physical Sensation to Stay in Present Time - Physical sensations help us stay in present time which increases personal power and allows us to stay connected with our aims. Find a way to create an unfamiliar physical sensation for yourself. This might be putting a rubberband around your wrist, wearing a ring on a different finger than usual, carrying a small rock in your pocket or anything you can think of that you will physically be conscious of throughout the day.

Get your relationships back on track magically by using some of these tips for creating sacred space. Not only will your relationships run smoother, but you'll find yourself able to enjoy life more, having time to stop and smell the roses and being able to manifest easier those things you want to attract to your life. It just one way real magic can add to your quality of life. 

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Thursday, May 15, 2014

Relationship Magic: Are You An Earth Personality?

In our last blog article we discussed relationship magic in relation to the Water element personality. This article focuses on the Earth element personality. Gaining knowledge about the 4 elements and which of them is most predominant in your personality can give you a greater understanding into your relationships with others. Relationship magic begins with an understanding of the characteristics of your predominant element. With this knowledge, you can gain insight into your own personality which can lead you to choosing a career and relationships that you will be successful in. If you know what element your personality is, then you can balance with other elements when needing to interact with a person of an incompatible element or to accommodate for certain situations. You can also know what people are good matches with you by determining their elemental make-up.

The Earth Element
In magic, one of the basic principles is that almost everything in the Universe is made up of a combination of the 4 elements: Air, Fire, Water, and Earth. With an understanding of the 4 elements and their characteristics you can understand anything in the Universe. That includes your basic personality and your relationships. You can learn more about the Earth element in our Magical Element Earth short course. To get you started, here are some of the basic characteristics associated with the Earth element:

strength, money, foundation, endurance, structure, mundane world, serenity of beingness, solidity, boundaries, permanence, land, commerce, products, confidence, loyalty, persistence, stubbornness, fortress, security, anchor, barter, substance, body, base, possessions

The Earth Personality
After reading the above characteristics of the Earth element, look at them in relation to your own personality, relationships and interactions. Do any of these sound like personality traits that you exhibit? If you are an Earth personality you are a practical and pragmatic person. You are a down to earth person with much strength, endurance, patience and persistence. Structure, boundaries, loyalty and permanence are things that you value. Earth personalities are often good at commerce and build strong foundations in their relationships and lives. Earth people are great manifesters and builders and do well in situations that they can add structure to. They want to know how things work and often fool around with improving everything. They are solid people that others drift to in uncertain times or see as an anchor or a "rock" and very often are very serene people. The challenge for Earth people is not getting stuck in a rut. Their desire for stability can often lead to stubbornness and inflexibility. They err on the side of caution, make decisions slowly and usually avoid taking risks. Another challenge for Earth people is their tendency to get bogged down with too many materials possessions, especially large ones. 


The Road to Success With an Earth Element Personality
Earth personalities will do well in roles and situations that allow them to exercise their practicality and love of structure. Careers that emphasize stability, strength, loyalty and long-term dedication will be the most successful. Earth people should avoid situations with lots of quick change and too much risk taking. A good challenge for an Earth person however is in learning to take some risks periodically.

Finding out your elemental personality type is the first step in relationship magic. This article should give you a pretty good idea as to whether you are predominantly an Earth Personality type. To get a more specific typing of your elemental personality, take our Four Element Personality Test HERE and find out more about four element and mixed elemental personality types in our ebook Energy Healing for Self and Others.


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Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Relationships Magic: Are You A Water Personality?

In our last blog article we discussed relationship magic in relation to the Fire element personality. This article focuses on the Water element personality. When you know which of the 4 elements is most predominant in your personality, you can gain a greater understanding into your relationships with others. Relationship magic entails first of all developing an understanding of the characteristics you display from your predominant element. This gives you insight into your own personality which can lead you to choosing a career and relationships that you will be successful in. If you know what element your personality is, then you can balance with other elements when needing to interact with a person of an incompatible element or to accommodate for certain situations. You can also know what people are good matches with you by determining their elemental make-up.

The Water Element
Magic has a basic principle that almost everything in the Universe is made up of a combination of the 4 elements: Air, Fire, Water, and Earth. Understanding the 4 elements and their characteristics allows you therefore to understand anything in the Universe. That includes your basic personality and your relationships. You can learn more about the Water element in our Magical Element Water short course, but here are some of the basic characteristics associated with the Water element:

emotions, feelings, intuition, compassion, empathy, sympathy, knowing, devotion, quest, aspiration, intention, appreciation, integrity, harmony, beauty, balance, serenity, fluidity, grief, apathy, joy, love

The Water Personality
Look over these characteristics of the Water element carefully and in relation to your own personality. Do these resonant with personality traits that you display? If you are a Water personality you are an empathetic and compassionate person. Other people often turn to you for comfort, love and assurance. You may be involved in causes that take care of others and the planet. Empaths, psychics and healers are often Water personalities. Integrity, compassion, harmony, creating balance and interacting with integrity can all be Water personality values. These type of people are appreciative of beauty and gifts in life. Since they do have a characteristic of empathy so ingrained in their personalities, Water people may find themselves getting over involved in other people's emotions and problems and often taking on their negative energies. They often become over invested in others and take on a caretaking role mistaking that for love. People of this personality type must guard against trying to save or fix everyone and everything and realize that they can better serve through modeling appreciation, gratitude and joy.


The Road to Success With a Water Element Personality
Water personalities will do well in roles in which they are empowered to use their intuitive and empathetic gifts. They need to have interaction with other people, plants, animals or spirit beings to feed their souls. They will also thrive in situations that allow them to spread their appreciation of beauty and joy. Water people need to be in situations that allow them to take good care of themselves first instead of those that insist their needs are put on a back burner in relation to a client's needs or a person's needs that they are in a significant relationship with. Successful situations also include those that allow the Water person to express who they are and stay true to their values.


The first step in relationship magic is finding out your elemental personality type. The information in this article should give you an idea as to whether you are predominantly a Water Personality type. To get a more specific typing of your elemental personality, take our Four Element Personality Test HERE and find out more about four element and mixed elemental personality types in our ebook Energy Healing for Self and Others.

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Thursday, May 8, 2014

Relationship Magic: Are You A Fire Personality?

In our last newsletter article we discussed how relationship magic works and presented information on Air element personalities. This article focuses on the Fire element personality. Knowing which of the 4 elements is most predominant in your personality can actually help you in several ways with relationship issues. Engaging in relationship magic means first of all having an understanding of the characteristics of your predominant element. This can help give you insight into your own personality. Knowledge of your elemental personality type can lead you to choosing a career and relationships that you will be successful in. If you know what element your personality is, then you can balance with other elements when needing to interact with a person of an incompatible element or to accommodate for certain situations. You can also know what people are good matches with you by determining their elemental make-up.

The Fire Element
A basic principle of magic is that almost everything in the Universe is made up of a combination of the 4 elements: Air, Fire, Water, and Earth. If you understand the 4 elements, you can understand anything in the Universe. That includes your basic personality and your relationships. In this article we will explore the Fire element personality. We'll explore the other element personalities in relation to relationship magic in future articles, so stay tuned for that. You can learn more about the fire element in our Magical Element Fire short course. Here are some of the basic characteristics associated with the Fire element:
energy, power, will, desire, anger, pain, motivation, radiance, passion, initiative, aggression, limitation, endeavor, activity, creative, willingness, urge, inspired, excitable, courage, bravado, compulsion, fanaticism, frustration, resentment, rage, freedom
The Fire Personality
Knowing these characteristics of the Fire element will help you have a better understanding of how these characteristics affect your personality. If you are a Fire personality you are energetic, full of life, radiant, enthusiastic and achievement oriented. You are a mover and shaker, a person of action, creative, a natural leader, often courageous and value initiative and freedom. Fire personalities are constantly on the move, become excited easily and have lots of energy, power, will and desire. They often are people that do extreme sports and like life in the fast lane. Fire element personalities can also become easily frustrated when things are dragging or with lack of action on the part of others. This can cause them to become impatient, irritable and to act spontaneously without thinking first.

The Road to Success With a Fire Element Personality
Fire people will do well to find life roles that allow them express their passion, creativity, and enthusiasm. They can burn off their excess energy with outdoor or active type careers and often gravitate towards action type jobs that require courage. They will struggle with learning to think before acting, but will do well to be aware of this and work on it. Indoor desk type jobs and jobs with confining roles will not be fulfilling for this personality type.

Get your relationship magic going by finding out your elemental personality type. The information in this article should give you an idea as to whether you are predominantly a Fire Personality type. To get a more specific typing of your elemental personality, take our Four Element Personality Test HERE and find out more about four element and mixed elemental personality types in our ebook Energy Healing for Self and Others.

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Thursday, May 1, 2014

Relationship Issues? Could Elemental Differences Be Causing Problems?

If you are having relationship issues, the problem could be that you and the other person (or people) are not a good elemental match. One of the basic tenets of magical studies is that everything in this Universe is made up of some combination of the 4 elements: Air, Fire, Water and Earth. Having an understanding and knowing how to work with the 4 elements allows you to understand (and create) anything you desire. This includes an understanding of relationships that will be compatible with us. Our personalities reflect the characteristics of the element or elements that are dominant in each of us. If our elemental balance is not compatible with another person's then communication problems and other relationship problems can exist.

Understanding the 4 Elements
The first lesson in understanding how the 4 elements might have a role in your relationship issues is to have a basic understanding of the characteristics of the 4 elements themselves. As you read through the following descriptions try to see which fits the type of personality traits you exhibit and other people that you know.

Air Element – corresponds to seeing, breathing, speaking, hearing, planning, thinking, believing, memorizing, communicating, learning, teaching, information, ideas, wisdom, understanding, worry, sensation, awareness, opinions, data, memory, mind.

Fire Element – corresponds to energy, power, will, desire, anger, pain, motivation, radiance, passion, initiative, aggression, limitation, endeavor, activity, creative, willingness, urge, inspired, excitable, courage, bravado, compulsion, fanaticism, frustration, resentment, rage, freedom.

Water Element - corresponds to emotions, feelings, intuition, compassion, empathy, sympathy, knowing, devotion, quest, aspiration, intention, appreciation, integrity, harmony, beauty, balance, serenity, fluidity, grief, apathy, joy, love.

Earth Element – corresponds to strength, money, foundation, endurance, structure, mundane world, serenity of beingness, solidity, boundaries, permanence, land, commerce, products, confidence, loyalty, persistence, stubbornness, fortress, security, anchor, barter, substance, body, base, possessions.

How the 4 Elements Relate to Relationship Issues
Now think about how each of these elements react to each other. For example, you know that you can blow out a candle so too much Air can smother Fire. Let's say you as a predominantly Fire Element person are in a relationship with a predominantly Air Element person. You can see how applying the 4 element characteristics can predict that relationship issues are bound to occur. Another example of a pairing that could be difficult would be in the case of a predominantly Water element personality matched with a predominantly Air Element person or predominantly Fire Element person. Water cannot accept air alone or fire alone easily. Water accepts air that is carrying fire. This case demonstrates how a Water Element person would probably have less relationship issues with a person who is an Air/Fire mix rather than predominantly Air or Fire.

How to Determine Your Elemental Make-up
The elements that dominate your personality play a key role in determining how you deal with life issues. That includes how you deal with relationship issues. Knowing your elemental make-up can help you determine the type of people you want to establish relationships with and help you know when to take on more of or dump excess types of elemental energy when you have to deal with someone who is not a good elemental match for you.

So how do you know what your elemental make-up is? As mentioned above, first look over the characteristics above. Are you a planner, a worrier, or a person who spends a lot of time engaged in mental processing or thinking about things? If so then you probably are predominantly Air. Do you anger easily or are you a very passionate person? Then you more than likely are a Fire person. Look at each of the elemental correspondences above and see which fit you the best.

A way to get a more exact answer as to which of the 4 elements you are most dominant in is to take our 4 Element Personality Test and to study the 4 elements more in-depth. You can learn more about the 4 elements in our Basic Magic Course or our Four Element Short Courses. You can take our 4 Element Personality test for free by clicking HERE.

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