"Get happy and then life will work out for you."
Sounds like a great idea, right? Here's a quote that I like even better. It's from Abraham and it makes it crystal clear where happiness ranks on the list: at the top!
"You just cannot burn the candle at both ends, so that you are physically tired, and then expect yourself to have a cheerful attitude. So the rule of thumb has to be: 'I'm going to be very, very, very happy and then do everything I have time to do after that."
Capische? Can't get clearer than that. So why doesn't that happen? Ah, therein lies the rub. The rub is the risk involved in happiness.
The Risk of Happiness
That sounds kind of stupid right? After all, how can there be risk associated with happiness? Happiness is a good thing. And yet, in most people's minds there is a huge risk in happiness: it's the risk of trusting the process, of trusting that everything will turn out all right in the end.
If you put your faith in the process and then the whole thing goes wonky, then you've risked your happiness and your faith. Right?
In other words, if you put happiness at the top of your list, as the quote above suggests, and then do everything you have time to do after that, there is the risk that you might not get to all the tasks that pay the bills ... you know, like your day job. There's also the risk that what makes you happy is going to make some other people unhappy. Or how about the risk that you chase after something that you think is going to make you happy, only to discover that it doesn't make you happy after all? Now you are disenchanted, you've lost your job, and you have made tons of people unhappy.
You never knew happiness was such a minefield, did you?
That's an exaggeration, of course, but it does highlight the fact that most people associate risk with happiness, even if it's at a subconscious level. The bottom line is that the process of learning to be happy is an experiment. It's a work in progress. It's a juggling act and one has to face the risk of dropping a few balls here and there ... or even a lot of balls.
How to Decrease the Risk Associated with Being Happy
At the end of the day, though, happiness is still the main thing. According to the Hopi, our purpose here on Earth is to "sound a joyous note to Creator's ear." We sound that joyous note by being happy. So how can you be happy without all the risk? Here are three ideas to get you started.
Happiness Idea #1: Accept that Being Happy is an Experiment
Not all experiments turn out with the expected results, but that's the nature of an experiment. You can't know the result of an experiment (otherwise why bother?), which means that any result is acceptable. ANY result will do. That's the beauty of an experiment. This takes the burden off of you to "get it right." Suppose you make a decision to be happy by doing something that pleases you. Perhaps you end up with a mixed result; you've made yourself very happy but made your spouse very unhappy. Consider the result as "data" from your experiment.
The next time you embark on a happiness experiment, modify it a little bit to see if you can achieve happier overall results. You can modify it all kinds of ways. Maybe you find a way to get happy that doesn't affect your spouse. Maybe you find a way to mollify your spouse. Maybe you decide to care a little less about your spouse being angry. Get the picture?
Happiness Idea #2: Get Some Help
High unemployment isn't just a problem among ordinary people right now ... angels are experiencing the same problem. There are literally thousands of angels standing in the unemployment line, just waiting for assignments where they can help people like you. Why are there so many unemployed angels? Because we live in a Type-A society where we think we have to do it all ourselves. The adage, "If you want something done right, do it yourself" was coined just for our society.
So as you try various experiments to get happy, hire some angels to help your experiments turn out better. Ask angels to soften the blow for any unexpected consequences. Hire other angels to give you more foresight so you can plan better. Hire yet more angels to help you get happy faster and more smoothly. Get it?
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Happiness Idea #3: Own a Day of Happiness
If your life is so full of responsibility that you can't just "chuck it all" and go on a happy-fest, then pick one day out of a week (or a month) that will be your day of happiness. Choose to "own" this day. Make it your very own. On this one day, tell everyone else in your life to bugger off. Dump your responsibilities. Go a little nuts ... or go a lot nuts. Whatever. Sometimes, when we feel "owned" by our lives, we have to break out of that mold. We have to own our lives rather than being owned by life. It's only one single day and the world won't end just because you're not there tending to all your responsibilities. As one of my magical teachers used to say to me when I thought the world couldn't live without me, "Oh honey, you're not that powerful!"
Onwards, upwards, outwards ... towards happiness we go!